tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post3565646678888890052..comments2023-06-27T07:21:28.167-05:00Comments on Savanna's Wings: Honesty Out LoudTabathahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04987607929155272297noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-80866250527076209522012-08-23T02:17:26.834-05:002012-08-23T02:17:26.834-05:00I have ever known the loss of a child that lived a...I have ever known the loss of a child that lived and breathed outside of my womb, and I cannot imagine the horror of it all. I do not know what it is like to visit the grave of my baby. I have nothing to say that would ease any of your pain. All I can say is that I understand. You loved her well in life, as you continue to do now. Do not fear the judgment of others. Your grief is your own. Only you walk your exact path. You are amazingly strong, not only for waking up and living your life every day, but for putting the words to what so many must feel. My prayers are with you always.Bright Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18117193338313563778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-40965287840139619782012-07-11T22:10:13.420-05:002012-07-11T22:10:13.420-05:00I have reached this point as well. I don't ne...I have reached this point as well. I don't need to visit my sons grave for him to know that I care...I realize that now. I completely agree with everyone you wrote about, I could have written it myself.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16070112399406592271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-44231830945129831322012-07-07T23:52:10.537-05:002012-07-07T23:52:10.537-05:00I am always praying for you guys :) Wish I could&#...I am always praying for you guys :) Wish I could've met her.. You are such a strong woman and wonderful mom!Amy Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03808966743763117034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-36468048434152119382012-07-06T20:46:57.383-05:002012-07-06T20:46:57.383-05:00It's okay, each feeling, is part of your griev...It's okay, each feeling, is part of your grieving process. You have the right to feel anyway. There should be no judgement ever. HugsJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16246306073053857033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-53606284924303838632012-07-05T09:46:57.020-05:002012-07-05T09:46:57.020-05:00I understand.I understand.Kristina Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08851486904638575583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-78998005787724171842012-07-04T19:59:35.297-05:002012-07-04T19:59:35.297-05:00Our grief changes all the time. It's impossibl...Our grief changes all the time. It's impossible to put any type of expectation on what should be normal in terms of our feelings. Completely impossible. <br /><br />You are obviously a great mama and you have an amazing girl. And you're right- her soul and spirit are forever intertwined in yours. Nothing will change that.<br /><br />Sending lots of love your way....xoxoNatashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10184755821618457912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-19803536987075431922012-07-04T17:15:29.023-05:002012-07-04T17:15:29.023-05:00I completely understand how you feel and I think y...I completely understand how you feel and I think you are so strong and brave to voice those feelings. Eight years ago my parents were killed in a car accident, it is nothing like a losing a child because it is a completely different kind of loss; however, I feel the same way you do. I used to go to the cemetary all the time in the beginning, thinking it was what I was SUPPOSED to do. I never felt comfortable though, I felt like I didn't know what I should be doing, how to honor them properly, or how to make myself better. I just did it because it was the "right thing." Over time my visits got shorter and shorter because I felt more and more uncomfortable being there; I too was hoping to see them there, and every time I couldn't - I would just get angry about it. We have always made it a tradition to go to their crash site and cemetary Memorial Day weekend, and this past year I just couldn't go to the cemetary. We went to the crash site because my husband made crosses for them, we have our kids clean up around the crosses, and I take the only pictures they will ever have "with" their grandparents. I just couldn't go to the cemetary though, and I felt awful for it. I felt guilty, like a horrible daughter, and I felt as though I wasn't doing something I was supposed to be. I still struggle with the guilt of not wanting to be there.<br /><br />Sorry for such a long response, but while you are letting us know that we are not alone - I wanted to be sure that you know you are not alone either. I completely understand. <br /><br />-Rissa, http://lifeforeverunexpected.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-33584227182155162872012-07-04T11:51:11.107-05:002012-07-04T11:51:11.107-05:00I have been following your blog, and admire your s...I have been following your blog, and admire your strength and honesty. I have not lost a child or grandchild, but I don't think I could of ever buried them. I find no peace at all when I go to the grave site of my 48 year old brother in law, just a haunting feeling when I look at the headstone with the dates. Stay strong, and never feel like you need to be sorry to anyone, most of the people with their remarks have not gone through what you and your husband have. Hugs from Tallahassee.Dina Ochshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04230730450408831366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-41445050662235770382012-07-04T10:42:59.939-05:002012-07-04T10:42:59.939-05:00Grief changes shape so much depending on where we ...Grief changes shape so much depending on where we are. Unfortunately most of the time we feel guilt because of it. You are amazing and so is your girl Savanna.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17906643480459302192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-6041254806065150002012-07-04T09:48:45.597-05:002012-07-04T09:48:45.597-05:00No judgement here, I cannot begin to imagine how c...No judgement here, I cannot begin to imagine how completely devestating grieving the loss of a child must be. You do the best you can...you get points for breathing. Lots of prayers for you, your hubby & savanna. You are all in my thoughts.Missy Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219339553215569812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-65735138568558812402012-07-04T00:24:39.459-05:002012-07-04T00:24:39.459-05:00My heart is hurting for you!!! Sending my love you...My heart is hurting for you!!! Sending my love your way!!!crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376156495266001770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8630120586918865064.post-65786519775078367602012-07-03T22:59:18.483-05:002012-07-03T22:59:18.483-05:00Your honesty is humbling. Thank you for trusting u...Your honesty is humbling. Thank you for trusting us, so many being strangers, with your inner feelings.Simply Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16888796899442161000noreply@blogger.com